- Jessica Ruiz, LMFT
Snap out of it!
Have you ever had a really bad day? Like really bad, where you had no energy to turn your mood around, and wished you had the energy to even just get out of bed? What happened when you made it out of bed for that quick trip to the restroom? How did you feel?
&& How did it feel when you told someone you weren't feeling up for whatever it was? What did they say? What did you try telling yourself?
I'm hoping "Snap out of it!" wasn't your first go to. If someone told you this when you were having a bad day, maybe you need to consider your social support resources. If you told yourself this, and then felt even worse for being unable to snap out of it, then we need to help you learn to be okay with not being okay. You won't always feel 100%. No one does. It is part of our human nature. We were build for human connections. Even the most high technology devices that are guaranteed to be reliable- FAIL. It is what it is. What do we do with a device? Do we just tell it to snap out of it? I think not. I think we figure out why it isn't working and what we can do to make it better, even if it means replacing the device.
You are not a device. You cannot go and purchase a new you, but you can go and figure out what is going on and what is causing the lack of energy and motivation, or maybe figure out why you are constantly feeling so angry. There are people trained and ready to help! Just like you would a device- you try to fix it on your own, realize it is not working, and you take it to someone who will fix it or replace it. So why not do this for yourself? You are much more an important than a device.
I hope the next time you feel/think that you need to snap out of it, you consider the reality and spare yourself some grace to "Just Be." Take some deep breaths, meditate, phone a supportive friend, or even reach out to a mental health professional. My website provides many resources- many where you can speak to someone and remain anonymous.
If you are someone who often tells someone to "snap out of it," I encourage you to snap-in a little bit more. If you do not know how to do this, consider encouraging your friend or loved one to seek someone who does. Asking for help is not a weakness. And no- sometimes you cannot simply "snap out of it."